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Have you ever actually sat down with your partner and decided who would be responsible for what at home?

Or, like most people, did you just fall into routines and habits based on what you each thought you should be doing? Maybe you eventually realized that things don't seem to be divided fairly, especially when it comes to the mental load of who is responsible for keeping everything running smoothly.

This course is not just about dividing up chores. It's about examining why and how one of you became the default manager of your lives while the other is going with the flow. Then making changes that last, so you have an equal partnership with a balance that makes both of your lives easier and more sustainable.

What you get:

• Access to all course lessons
• Course materials and exercises to guide you through
• Support from a real person if you have questions about the course

Who should take this course?

To get the most out of the course, I recommend that you both it, either separately or together. (You can take it alone first.) Once you have access to the course, you can replay it as many times as you need to.

This course helps you to work together as a team to create systems that create balance in your home and reduce the mental load overall. It's about creating a balanced and supportive home life, so no one feels overwhelmed or resentful.

In order to do that, it takes two people who are willing to sit down and look at how things are distributed (the physical chores and the mental load), why they are currently distributed that way, and whether it makes sense to make any changes.

What's in the course?

The course is broken into 7 modules, each containing several lessons (5-minutes on average, with 41 lessons in total). Each module contains at least one exercise, so you can implement what you've learned.

Once you've joined the course, you can take the lessons at your own pace, but I lay out a plan to complete the course in 4 weeks (because real change takes a little time).

The lessons include:

• What is "the mental load"?
• How to have conversations about the mental load productively
• How mental load imbalance isn't a just personal or relationship issue, it's systemic
• How mental load imbalance harms both men and women
• The spectrum of default parenting versus equal parenting and how to determine what works best for your family
• How both our past experiences and societal expectations impact the way we divide things at home
• How time inequality shows up in relationships
• How to create systems, habits, and routines that work for you (and how to maintain them over time)
• Real-life examples you can steal or adapt to fit your life

"We've tried this in the past, but it just doesn't last."

Sharing the mental load doesn't come naturally to most couples. That's because we're all shaped by our experiences (from childhood on), social norms, the media, and people, and we live in a society that puts different burdens and expectations on women and men.

Being overwhelmed by the mental load or having imbalance in your relationship isn't just a personal issue or a relationship issue. It's a systemic issue.

We may not be able to fix the system, but we can make real changes in our own home. We can also be an example to others, like our children, which is how progress is made over time.

This course takes you through a transformative process, helping you identify where exactly the imbalance is coming from and how you can make changes that actually last over time.

Why is this important, and why should I take it now?

If one of you had to drop everything for an indefinite period of time, could the other person handle everything? No notes, no lists, no instructions, no reminders. 

When my second son was 4 weeks old, that's exactly what I had to do. 

It was a Thursday evening and dinner was in the oven when my husband got a call from our pediatrician. "We just got the test results back. You need to take him to the hospital right now."

That's not what we expected to hear.

My husband had taken him to the ER the night before, they ran some tests, and he seemed to be doing better all day. But suddenly, I was frantically putting things into a bag and getting him out the door as quickly as I could.

Thankfully, we have a healthy, happy one year old who made a full recovery. But in that moment, everything was uncertain.

After that phone call, my husband gave me two things. The first was a choice: "Do you want to take him, or do you want to stay with our three-year-old?" Of course, I wanted to take him.

The second thing he gave me is the foundation of our partnership. It was my trust in him as a dad to our oldest son and in his ability to keep everything else together for as long as he needed to. That trust allowed me to focus completely on what was most important in that moment (and for the ten days after that while we took turns caring for each of our boys at home and at the hospital).

He didn't need a list, or reminders, or instructions. He already knew what to do. He controlled the situation, so our three-year-old felt safe. He got him to bed, then up and to school. He arranged for extra help. He contacted our families. All while supporting me emotionally (one month postpartum) through the whole thing.

That's what it looks like to have an equal partner. Not just one who does their share of the chores, but one who shares in managing the mental load and emotional labor too, so you're not carrying it all alone.

Will it always be perfect? Of course not. But having someone who shares the mental load gives you the time and space to focus on what you need, not just what everyone else needs.

Want to learn more before joining? Visit www.mockingbirdlearning.com.

About Kelsey Baker, Founder of Mockingbird Learning 

I'm a mom, attorney, and consultant working full-time in the corporate world and raising two little ones alongside my husband. I founded Mockingbird Learning to use my personal and professional experience to help women and couples achieve balance at home and streamline their lives to make time for what they love.